Pre-Funeral Planning: Small Tips to Make the Stress Easier
Planning a funeral is never easy, especially for those who have never done it before. For the most part, your funeral home should give you a step-by-step checklist to follow. Still, there are a lot of decisions that will have to be made in the coming days, and they will need to be made quickly. Here are a few ways that you can reduce your stress and get the funeral done right.
Delegate Responsibilities
Delegation will help you when you feel as though you're overly burdened by the things that you need to get done. Choose tasks that fit the individual that you are going to delegate it to; the family musician can choose the music that will play during the viewing and the photographer of the family (amateur or professional) can find the photos that best reflect your loved one. A few other things you can delegate include choosing the burial outfit and choosing flowers for the funeral itself. Trying to make all the decisions yourself will often be too stressful; if you delegate, you can still have a final say, but you don't have to take on everything at once.
Figure Out Funding First
Before you make any plans, you should determine the exact amount you have for the burial and work within that budget. The amount may be more than you think; make sure you consult with all relevant insurance policies. Keep track of all your expenses on a spreadsheet and make sure you know about how much you can expect to spend for each item (casket, burial ceremony, and so forth). Otherwise you will be worried every time you purchase something that you're going over budget -- it's just easier to already have the amounts laid out.
Prioritize
There are some elements of a funeral that need to be done right away, and there are others that can wait. While the funeral itself needs to take place immediately, things like engraved headstones, memorials or even more permanent urns can wait. If you just do not have the energy to make these decisions now -- don't. Wait until after the funeral when you have breathing room.
Don't be afraid to ask for help when you become overwhelmed. Your funeral home, such as Morris Nilsen Funeral Chapel, has specialists who deal with this type of situation every day; they know exactly what needs to be done, though they can't make the decisions for you. If you're concerned that you may be put in the position of planning a funeral in the near (or even distant) future, you might want to get started now.